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Recovery

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.
— Buddha

Everyone fucks up. What you do after you fuck up is what counts. I messed up big time this week. I had finals for college, which lasted till Tuesday, I told myself I wont post on Monday and Tuesday making the finals for my classes the excuse.  Leaving from the road that I had paved for myself and breaking my routine completely shut down my system. On Wednesday morning I didn’t want to open my laptop and bang out a new article. Instead, I decided to watch Blacklist during my morning and told myself ill start the article during the afternoon. That afternoon article never came, its Friday evening right now and I just started this article. From the span of those 60 hours, I learned a very important lesson on recovery.

Don’t be so hard on yourself: Tuesday night I kept telling myself “Abid you’re an idiot for not posting anything,” “you emailed your followers saying you’d post daily”, “your letting people down”, “Your cheating yourself”. Instead, what I should have told myself was “Abid you took 2 days off, its all good enjoy your Tuesday night and wake up tomorrow morning and be a monster and crush out those articles”. When you mess up, the worst thing you can do to yourself is be critical and get depressed. It’s a never-ending cycle, which I was a part of for 60 hours. When you mess up on any aspect of life weather its getting work done, your diet, your workout, you should never be critical of yourself. Acknowledge that you messed up, before going to sleep I recommend going on notes or writing it down on your diary, I messed up today because of this reason and ill make sure not to do this again. Next morning, resume to your regular grind.

Don’t try to compensate: A big mistake I made after messing up was trying to compensate for my loss afterwards. For example, Thursday I told myself I was going to write 4 articles for the entire week. While attempting to write 4 articles, I completely gave up and tossed everything. The best thing to do once again is to acknowledge you messed up, document it, and resume to your normal schedule. Trying to do more after messing up is signing up for disaster. Lets say I did knock out those 4 articles; I wouldn’t be able to maintain that level of execution. I can barely maintain 1 article a day, eventually I would fall off the wagon again and the cycle would continue getting worse.

I messed up big time this week and it’s a shame that my first post for the week is coming out on a Friday evening. This is what happens when you move away from your normal routine and decide to be hard on yourself afterwards. The biggest lesson I took away from this week is to once again not be hard on yourself after you mess up. I will probably mess up a million more times on this page, however, after messing up the best thing to do is to document your reason and move on without being depressed and killing yourself over it.    

Also, this probably isn’t my best piece of writing. My writing in general is shit so this is probably diarrhea quality. But another lesson to take from this is just go freaken do it. It doesn’t have to be great. Something is better than nothing.  I hope you guys can take something away from this. 

Blame

Blame

Toughen up

Toughen up